Today’s guest post is from the fabulous Alexandra, aka: The Empress from Good Day, Regular People, who also happens to be our Blogger of the Month!! Have you gone to visit her yet? If you have not had the chance to yet, make today THE day! It is writing like this that brings readers back again and again to her site.
Thank you so much Alexandra for being here for the month of March and for sharing your wonderful writing! It has been a true pleasure my friend!
Last night, my boys and I were waiting in a store check out line, buying all the soccer gear they needed for the Spring season starting. There was a woman in front of us – who had to have seen me with my 3 children– speaking on her cellphone. We were shoulder to shoulder.
She was having a horrific cellphone conversation. She continued her phone conversation, at a level that could’ve been heard 20 feet away. And the contents of this call? Definitely should have been Puh-rivate. My family was forced to overhear details of her alcoholic mother that should have been confidential. I just shook my head. Was she thinking we couldn’t hear her? Was she thinking, “so what I don’t care it’s my business.” What made her feel this was OK?
I think, this: “hey, it’s easy to do what I want to do. I want to talk right now, and I’m going to. Besides, it can’t wait.”
Self absorption: your world, you’re the only one in it, who cares about your impact on others. What does it matter if others get pulled into your world and they don’t want to be.
I use these examples to ask my teenage sons, “what do you think about that? How did that make you feel to listen to her private life? Do you want to be that way?” Oh, yes, I ride them hard on this one.
There are examples all the time, sadly enough, of no awareness of others, of being more concerned with yourself more than anyone else.
I am shocked and flustered when I am unwillingly caught in these situations. I wonder if it’s the way society is going to be. I see this behavior more and more, and I don’t know if it’s a new laziness, or if it’s technology and all the temptations it brings, or if parents no longer take opportunity to teach when they see something inappropriate.
I also have to ask, is it me? Am I an old lady? Do I sound like an old lady? I do sound like an old lady, don’t I? I have become an old lady. Does this cellphone behavior bother only me, and younger people accept it as just life with cellphones?
Is my lack of tolerance for these things just what those on this side of 40 years old feel?
I don’t know anymore. Maybe it’s because I try to protect my children from things I don’t want them to hear, and when they are within earshot of some 20 year old male’s phone conversation discussing the hot babe from last night, I have no control over what my kids hear. Can the call not wait till they’re in the privacy of their car, or at least out of the store’s doors?
I spent an evening a few weeks ago, squirming, talking loudly, trying to drown out the person’s cellphone conversation in the booth behind us at a Mexican restaurant. It was a weekend, the place was busy, and we had to listen to a sobbing young girl get dumped by her boyfriend via phone call. She did not take it well, there was another girl involved. Oh, yeah, I know the whole story. The poor friend with her sat miserably across from her, uncomfortable — I ‘m sure her evening ruined, also. The drama…the threats..the tears. The unwilling audience.
A time and a place, people. Have we become so impulsive, so needy on the return of our initial contact, that we can no longer wait till we are in the car, or get home, to respond to our phone calls?
Help me out here, am I an old finger wagging lady who stays home with her kids? Or does this bother anyone else? Is it because I have children and I don’t want them to hear adult conversations? Or do you think cellphone use is the same as a public conversation between 2 people? Is it just the risk we take with leaving our houses?
Should I just welcome this Brave New World, and all the cellphones in it?