Sometimes I wish life came with a pause button. Not to stop big chunks of time, but to allow the little moments in the every day, a chance to suspend just long enough to be absorbed fully and completely.
What Parents Think About Before College
I look through old photographs and smile at the moments gone by captured in an instant. Memories that flood back to the forefront. Days of patty-cake, snuggles and bedtime stories.
Celebrations of growing another year older, visits from the Tooth Fairy and self hair cuts for the kindergarten alphabet play.
Having fun being the big sister and playing the princess to superheroes. Finding friendships and navigating through the “terrible teens.”
Learning the art of defensive driving and the moment in life when you begin to realize you think you know everything, and you actually know nothing.
Push Pause Before College
Our oldest will be off to college, a new Back to school, and the enormity is beginning to settle, making me stop and question – did I do everything I could as a parent to help prepare you for this game called life?
Did I read enough stories, give enough kisses, answer enough “why?” questions?
Did I stop and appreciate all the little moments?
Did I take the time to preserve as many memories as I possibly could knowing the brevity of time childhood possesses?
Feeling Depressed Sending Kids to College?
When holding a small hand once meant keeping her safe, I now reach for it to keep her close. I'm not ready to give up our everyday conversations of how the day went or simply sharing our thoughts, nor am I ready to give up the constant arguments about things that won't matter next week, because I know the quiet that is about to come will drive me crazier.
As heavy as it makes my heart feel, I realize it is time to let go.
I only wish I could push pause for just a moment.
Letting Go of Your College Student
Letting go of your child when they are off to college can be very emotional and hard. I am here to tell you it gets better for you and your college student.
It's nice to have family photos to help push the pause button just for a moment. Hopefully, you will be able to look at these cherished memories together.
Feel proud of yourself for raising a wonderful human being! They are about to start a new chapter in their life and so are you!
After move-in day, allow yourself to grieve the separation, maybe treat yourself to a little pampering facial or dinner at your favorite restaurant.
Before you know it, they will be back home and excited to tell you all about classes, life goals, and new friends.
And if you felt like you needed to stop time and push a pause button before college, just wait, because the next four years will really fly by.
I am so grateful I have moments to look back and reminisce of young childhood days, but I can honestly say, I am really looking forward to our new chapter and all the new memories to come.